there’s a word for you
an oxymoron if you will
… a figure of speech in which two opposite ideas are joined to create an effect.

how can something be ‘sweet’
and at the same time, be ‘bitter’

how about the time when your child
went off to kindergarten for the first time
or graduated high school
or left home for college
or got married
… ‘sweet’ – because you’re happy they’re growing up
… ‘bitter’ – because you realize that your child is moving away from you
b  i  t  t  e  r  s  w  e  e  t

what about a wedding anniversary when your beloved spouse has died
… ‘sweet’ – because there is no more suffering
… ‘bitter’ – because you wanted many more years together
b  i  t  t  e  r  s  w  e  e  t

the month of October is the hiatus
between the sweet summer and bitter winter
b  i  t  t  e  r  s  w  e  e  t

life is full of bittersweet moments
how do we deal with them
how do we let them into our lives
but not
take over our lives

it may be easier to push those moments down or away
but there is no resolution or healing in ignoring our emotional response

it may not be easy to focus on the ‘bitter’
it may not be easy to 
acknowledge the reality of the moment
but when we do, we are free to discover the sweetness
… the pride felt as our child faced the milestones of their growing-up years
… the joy felt as our spouse shared a love that transcended words

life can be bittersweet
and it’s up to us to determine how it ultimately resolves itself in our soul
bitter or sweet

Photo and Text © june maffin



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